I am not loving her today

 This week I had some company over, some small, but insightful company. I love it when you get to spend time with children whether it is my own or a friends child; children bring light, joy, insight and honesty.
  This time my little friend brought all four of these points out in one little conversation. Our conversation we had was when I asked her to come sit down by me for couple of minutes, she came over but not very happily and I surely thought oh no, we are going to have a melt down. Guess what we didn't, we had a conversation. 
She came over with her big bright eyes and said "My sister is not her friend anymore!" (She and her sister are about 18mo apart)I asked "Why?" She said "because." (Duh, I didn't see that one coming) "Oh,that is so sad, how many sisters did God give you?" I asked. Her answer "Just one." My response " Well aren't we supposed to love the gifts God gives us? He only gave you one sister." "Yes, He did give me one, but I am not loving her today." She replied.
   Joy and light: her sweet eyes and smile even in frustration, and her frankness. Honesty: I am not loving her today. In other words lady you not changing my mind. Insight: Haven't we all been there, sometimes daily sometimes weekly and sometimes every once and a blue moon.
   I am going to focus on the insight part, because this is a it is a life truth.  It is easy to love friends, it is hard to love family. You choose your friends, they like the same things you do (usually), you probably met them doing one of the things you enjoy doing, there is a common, factor in your relationship. Family on the other hand you had no choice in the matter, in fact God arranged the whole thing. Even though you "chose" your spouse there might be a day or two where you just do not want to them. You might disagree completely all the time with your brother or your sister, they might drive you up the wall from dawn to dusk. If fact you may rarely want to love them.  What about the annoying Aunt, Uncle or Cousin where you think dang they saw me, now I have to talk to them. You might not want to them talk let alone love them. The Grandparents that just don't get you or anything you are about, the whole time you are thinking hello can you join this century for a change.  The list can go on and on. (Just for the record, I am not say anything about my family, currently. ;))
  Whether you look at your husband in the morning and think I don't want to love you today. Or he might even think that about you this very minute. Maybe it is, your sister, brother, mother, father, cousin, aunt, uncle, grandfather, grandmother, mother-in-law, father-in-law, sister-in-law, brother-in-law, or any combination of the above. The truth is if you don't want to love, don't, don't love.  Just remember even the unlovable want to be loved. More importantly God place those people in your life, they are the people that help shape you, love you, cry with you, pray for you and rejoice with you.  These people are the people you have been given special charge over.  They need your gifts and abilities as much as you need theirs. You impact their life just as greatly as they impact your life.  You might only get to see them once a year, you may never see in person just on face book.  Love is a choice you can give it freely with joy or begrudgingly. 
   On a final note what if you are the one who is hard to love. We all have our moments. We all can be unlovable. I know, I am at times.  Take a chance on love, share it with the ones who touch your life.