What about it? What about me. When do I get to do my thing. Why can not I do what I want too? Well can you here yourself in there or not. When I had just got married, I thought great I love this but, where did I go? Then two more children after the one we already had, I thought hmm, when do I get to do my stuff. I mean after all I am home all the time and all the time with my children, no time for me. Pretty soon I really started to resent my family. I did everything for them, and I never got a break. Where I went they went, what I did they did. I begged my sweet husband for some me time. The problem was he worked about 60-70 hrs a week to support us. He wasn't getting me time either, but unlike me he never complained. You may be thinking but he at least leaves the house, you are home ALL day. Guess what, I thought that too. Not thinking that he might not love what he does are that he thought of himself lucky.
Then one day, I was reading an article about this exact same thing in a home school magazine. The mom felt the same way, until she had lost a child and it changed her perspective a little on life. While thankfully I did not loose a child I did take note and learn. Where in the Bible do any of the women have me time. They have God time but not me time. This me time is a selfish, man created thing. Is it important to have time to step a way yes. Is it a necessity? No. It is a gift. When most girls are little the one thing they want most when they grow up is what? To be a mommy, a wife have a family. But when we grow up and get what we really wanted, is it what we really thought it would be?
For example most people think of a Stay at Home Mom (SAHM) as a lucky women, getting fat and watching soaps all day. If you ask SAHM what their day is really like I don't think you will find she has time for either. Let alone herself. Same thing with the working mom. Both have little time for themselves. The problem arrives when you think you need time for your self. Did God give you a family to sit in front of a TV, computer, XBox, Wii or any other thing for you to pay little to no attention too? Nope! He gave you this family to grow and love. In fact raising a family, being a wife, and a mom, is the exact opposite of selfishness. Because it is all about serving the ones you love. If you don't love to serve, you better start to learn.
My days have gotten so much better since I stopped focussing on what I wasn't getting, and how everyone else (or seemed) was getting this thing called me time. But on what I did have, 3 beautiful children and a very loving husband. How lucky can a girl get?!? When you start looking at your family as a blessing and a gift that is special just for you. Life is so much simpler and better than before.
Bottom line die to self, and find a new life worth dancing through.
Thoughts on being a wife, motherhood and raising a family against the grain.
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